I find it on my heart and more importantly on my mind to talk about boundaries. Choosing your friends wisely is important, and you choose your friends in the act of spending time with them. Think about it, by spending your time, (as precious a commodity as money) you are sending the message I care about you, your life, your dreams and hopes. Relationships, romantic or otherwise require work and equal amounts of effort. It’s not always easy in the maelstrom of work, love, life and the pursuit of happiness to support friendships but its almost always worth it.
Boundaries are important, if for no other reason then it sets up for people you interact with what you will accept and what you will not. This includes boundaries for your friends, colleagues, and partners. It is so easy to just let things be what they will and its hard sometimes to ask for what you want but in my experience it is the only way to get it. So if you are unhappy with the state of your relationship, ask yourself the question. 1. What do I want? 2. What am I doing to get it? 3. How is that working?
If you know what you want, and are doing all can to get it and its not working, the problem isn’t you.
You can’t just talk about it, if there is something you are passionate about it, its time to do something about getting you there.. What do you want to do? Climb Mount Everest? Plant a vegetable garden? Learn a new language? Too busy? Well, we make time for the things that are important, so if it is really important you will find a way to do it, think about that the next time you make an excuse instead of a move toward your dream!
Loyal Lilypad Followers, I come to you today to talk about dental health, we all have a state of it, poor, good and excellent. Mine is deplorable, I went to get the second side of my mouth cleaned on Friday, (yes normally people get both sides of their mouth cleaned in one sitting, not this girl. The pain of my cleaning the right side was so intense it required 7 shots of anesthetic so that I would not feel the drilling, picking and maintaining the dental staff was doing to my mouth. I had to wait two weeks to go back because after that intense attention you have to let the gums rest. So this time, it took ten shots, and the doctor while looking at my teeth determined that two were too far gone and we would need to extract them. Depressing and not fun but I don’t tell you this to chastise myself, I tell you this to shine light on you. Do you floss, brush and mouthwash rinse daily? Do you take care of your health body or mouth with the same care you give to your child, friend and spouse? Think about that and please please learn from my pain!
When you ask for help, you are not weak, you are smart. Best Practices are a powerful tool we can use not to reinvent the wheel but to build your Corvette from a tested blueprint. No matter the topic, acting, dancing, singing, speaking, or vegetable gardening there is someone who is successful at it and you can benefit from their wisdom and experience. Don’t be afraid to admit you do not know something. Welcome the opportunity to learn it.