I am embarrassed to admit this, but there are times when I need a boost.
I think it would come as no shock that we all could, but when you are a motivational speaker and life coach sometimes that “boost” is a little hard to come by, especially since your goal is to raise others and advise them on how they can feel good about what they are doing and will do. Remember, my daily goal? “To inspire one person a day”
Some days are easier than others and today was not that day. It was a tough day at work, and I was feeling frustrated, nothing terrible but definitely a difficult day, so I did a little self-care also known as retail therapy (within budget of course) and did some shopping.
I was trying on clothes and trying hard to decide, “Does this look sexy?” “Do I like it?” “Does it look good on me?”, and I must have been saying these things aloud because out of nowhere a very pretty woman who was nearby said, “Girl, you got it going on, curves, hips and you are just gorgeous, and that top looks amazing on you” I blushed a little and said, “Thank you, I appreciate you saying that. She smiled at me and then went back to her shopping and I went back to mine.
At the beginning of this post, I mentioned it was embarrassing to admit I needed that “kindness of a stranger” to reassure me about my own looks, why is that?
For two reasons.
- I did a show about how you vital it is for us ALL to embrace how we look and love it and cherish it (not even three months ago)
- My voice telling me that I am good enough, that I am sexy enough, that I am ENOUGH is not always enough.
I am working on that, but today, I was grateful for the stranger who cared enough to comment.
So on the off chance that you are having that day today, allow me to say to you, the following….
YOU ARE AWESOME! You are up to things in life that are hard and you are doing them every day and every day you get a little closer to that goal. I don’t know exactly what your goal is but I know you are getting there, bit by little bit. I got some advice a long time ago from the mother of my heart, the only mother I acknowledge and she said this,
I got some advice a long time ago from the mother of my heart, and she said has asked me this series of questions when I was stuck and not moving forward, which has been many times in my life.
“What do you want?
“What are you doing to get it?”
“How’s that working for you”
Three questions that help guide me in my daily life, so perhaps they will help you.
If you are having a rough time and feeling a little sorry for yourself, another piece advice (from Mom of course) is this, “You can have a pity party, just don’t stay there”
So whichever side of the spectrum you are on, you now have some tools and maybe even an action plan. Go follow that map you just drew and remember, you are doing WAY better than you think.
Think about it.
(This is a picture of me, very proud of my body) I will be proud of my body tomorrow at 5 am (gulp) when I go swim to continue to show my love and self-care for my body. I post these pictures to help remind me of the evolution of love I have for my figure. I also post things in my blog, to make me accountable to the rest of you.