Brokenness- good or bad?

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Dear Readers,

A dear friend introduced “brokenness” as a theme for 2018 and I balked at that notion thinking to myself, “That’s a horrible way to start out the year. It’s broken at 10 days old? Ouch! That doesn’t leave a lot of room for redemption, or does it? ”

The question was then posed, Is brokenness good or bad?

I have to say I am struggling with this question.

I think a broken promise is something to avoid, but what if the promise is to yourself to work out twice a week and the broken promise is in aid of doing some self-care because you had a rough week at home, at work and at life?

Wouldn’t that be a good “brokenness”?

Brokenness would apply to someone who has been through hardship and difficulty in their relationships with their parents and one might say they are an example of brokenness, but in that brokenness, they rose up, they picked up the shattered pieces of their life and they built a stronger and more resilient version of themselves.  Wouldn’t that be an example of a good thing to be broken?

Brokenness could apply to a relationship that you think is on good footing, maybe not perfect but certainly good, and then you realize through a series of interactions with this friend or this colleague that that relationship isn’t broken, it doesn’t exist. So in that case, brokenness is a good thing because it reveals something we think is there as not being there.

My opinion? Brokenness is not actually bad. It’s just something that happens. I think the thing that matters most is what we choose to do with it.

Will you leave it broken? Will you fix it? Should it be broken? Does it deserve to be fixed?

Only you can answer that question, so Brokenness, Good or Bad? The answer is entirely up to you.

Think About It.

 

3 thoughts on “Brokenness- good or bad?

  1. I think I would use the word reality rather than brokenness . Reality, depending on what aspect of your life you are looking at, may not be sitting well with you, so you might have to accept it as it currently is, or you might want to work on that aspect and see if there is a way to improve it. Sometimes our expectations are unrealistic and so we may need to modify them in order to be at peace with ourselves. Some things are inherently part of our nature, but I wouldn’t use the word broken, I would say less than what we would have wanted, or not ideal. Still they are our reality and we need to keep going as best as we can.. I don’t think that there is anything special about this year to justify the title of broken versus any other year; just my two cents.

    1. Thank you for always giving me something to think about! I passionately believe the words we use matter, and using “brokenness” as an example to illustrate how differently we can “reframe” a word or redefine it so it works for me. A little context for you, my friend had two items that were made of glass that were broken in quick succession. So it wasn’t the year 2018 that spawned it but the events that happened.

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