Cute. It’s a word that gets thrown around a lot, especially when describing little girls, in this particular instance, mine.
I mean, yes, she is, AND she is so much more.
She’s three now (HOW?) and just the other day I heard her say, while putting her hands next to her face, “cuuuute” – not sure if she was describing herself or the outfit, and I saw an opportunity to reverse a seemingly innocuous habit.
Allow me to explain- I absolutely think my daughter is cute. I also know she is smart and strong and that’s a narrative I want her to believe from as early an age as I can to negate barrage of people telling her that she is “cute” but forgetting all the other things she is too.
So my husband and I discussed it and agreed we will teach her to say, “Strong, Smart, and Cute” when describing herself.
I never want her to think that “cute” is ALL she is.
I am proud to report after just a few days, she is saying all three!
(Thanks to Aunt Rachel for the dress!)”
Growing up, I was definitely recognized as Smart, but that￼ was all.
I think it was good to grow up with that notion and hearing people say that about me, helping me to believe it about myself, and I am also sure it would have been greatly beneficial to believe all three about myself and, as I have grown, I have come to believe it.
I could leave it at that, but I think the important takeaway here is YOU.
What words do you use to describe yourself?
Are they true or false?
Are they aspirational or accurate?
Taking it even further, what are you saying about others, what words are you using? They matter, so
Think About It.