I chose to not eat ice cream last night, but when I came in to work today, I ate an egg and bacon sandwich and then I chose to eat a pastry. I am doing my level best to not feel guilty because I promised my husband I was “excising the guilt” meaning any time I start to feel it, I say to myself ala Karen from Will & Grace “Guilt be gone” by handing a check to Grace because she was late – I am working on it.
It takes time for that to happen since I have 36 plus years experience feeling guilty so “excising the guilt is a new thing” it will take time.
What habit have you started recently? How is it going?
I have always held the belief that making or breaking a habit followed one simple formula:
Have idea to change or start activity+ 21 days of doing or not doing that activity =Habit Formed
However, when opening my email today and reading an excerpt from a new book, by Jeremy Dean, “Making Habits, Breaking Habits: Why We Do Things, Why We Don’t, and How to Make Any Change Stick
seems to indicate the harder the change, the longer the timeframe to move it from “idea” to “habit”. The range has been found to be anywhere from 21 to 96 and sometimes more depending on the complexity of the change. I have to say as someone trying to change eating habits, reading habits and spending habits all in one year, this comes as something of a relief.
Now, don’t mistake me, you still have to do the work, but this allows for some grace in the forming of the habit, and to allow you to realize that even if not perfect, the effort is worth it because it is in the effort to make a change for the positive, that we truly start the change.
By the way, changing eating habits for 30 days has yielded me 16 pounds less on my frame, more energy and sleeping better. I will get back to you on the rest.. What are you trying to change today, tomorrow and next week?