If it sucks say so, don’t try to color it with “it could be worse” or “well at least…”
I have been going back and forth about this for a few days and I finally decided to to just tell it like it is and say this sucks. Period.. No qualifiers, no positive spin. I am very much a fan of spin but now is not that time.
First, I found out this week that I have to get dental work done… after having a great check up and feeling GREAT about things. I could easily say, at least its two teeth not four.. but I don’t want to. I want to wallow and be hacked off (and I AM) that even though I put in all that work brushing and flossing and paid rapt attention to my teeth, I still have to get them worked on because I have inherited bad teeth and try as I might this still plagues me, I am in charge of what I can do about it, but it allows me limited control which for those who know me is also something I LOVE. (insert heavy sarcasm here)
Second, we just PAID off our car which is awesome, and we had a great time with family and friends over Thanksgiving but on the way home we hit a deer (we are 100% fine) but it really damaged the car. We don’t know what will happen not sure how much the repairs will cost but right now I just want to be frustrated.
Third- A friend of mine is having a really rough time with her family at the moment and I have no good advice. All the words in the world will not bring comfort. It sucks OUT LOUD. I can’t help. I can pray for her and send her good vibes and hug her and cry with her but that is all I can do.
I usually use this blog to post about how life can be hard, but keep your chin up and how there is always a silver lining if you look for it.. but sometimes life sucks and you have to cry, scream or curse to get to what is next and that process can be days, weeks, months or even years.
I want to always be real with you and I have seen that kind of authenticity create magic and connection where there was none, people are much more willing to share with you when you share with them.
So what is my point? When someone tells you that they are upset, listen- Don’t just jump in with advice. Or if someone is crying, let them cry, don’t try to stop them. A song I have deep emotional connection to is “Sad Songs Say So Much” by Elton John – The lyrics speak for themselves
“The kick inside is in the line that finally gets to you and it feels so good to hurt so bad, or suffer just enough to sing the blues”
So be a gift to someone else today and listen to them or if there is someone you have been “meaning to call” pick up the phone and even if its just a text, let them know you are there.
Think about it…..